When it comes to raising a child, consistency is key. You may read this and say “Well sure, but my family cannot do that now that the kids’ time is split between two households.” Divorce may make consistency a bit more difficult to achieve, but it doesn’t make it impossible. In fact, many family experts would argue that it is even more important in your situation. The more consistency and predictability you can provide for your children, the easier time they will have adjusting to their new life split between two houses. If you’re struggling, that’s okay! There are a few changes you can make to make things easier for everyone. A few things you can do to maintain consistency in your co-parenting situation include:
#1 Create a schedule, and stick to it. It’s downright impossible to provide consistency for a child without a routine. This is both a daily routine as well as a weekly one. A parenting plan will outline where the children will stay on what days and what times. It will include everything from weekly rotations and holidays to summer vacations. This type of schedule not only helps you keep track of when your own parenting time is, but it also helps your children develop a predictable routine. It’s important to try to stick as close to this schedule as possible. Frequent changes can be disruptive to your child’s sense of security.
#2 Maintain open lines of communication. Of course, there will be emergencies or times when it makes sense to swap days or otherwise switch up the schedule. You don’t have to be friends, but you do need to be friendly to one another. It may take time to get there, but it’s important to communicate freely with each other. For better or worse, you and your ex will need to have some sort of relationship until your child turns 18. The more you can keep things civil, the easier it will be to communicate about important issues. Let’s say a child is sick and so he or she needs to stay with mom and until feeling better. Perhaps dad’s out-of-town family is coming in for a vacation and he needs to adjust the schedule a bit so the kids can spend time with grandparents. All of these are okay, and it will be so much healthier for everyone if you can talk about the changes without it becoming a fight.
#3 Develop a routine. A routine can help establish stability and allow children to thrive. Try to set a daily schedule. This may include something like:
- Video Games
You don’t have to schedule things down to the minute, but when you create a routine, your child knows what to expect.
If you’re having trouble, a family law expert may be able to help. Perhaps you need your schedule to be made official. It’s possible your ex won’t let you see your kids as often as you’d like, they aren’t sticking to the routine you both agreed to, or dozens of other situations. In all of these, time spent talking to a lawyer can help. The legal team at Ellen Cronin Badeaux is here for you! Call us now at (985)-892-1955 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org to book an appointment to be seen at our New Orleans office location.